MoonSticks wrote: ↑Mon Jan 15, 2018 12:36 am
When will people learn, and stop being ignorant.
This Isn't directed to anyone on here, i'm messaging somebody who I dated years ago, long story short he is straight up being a bully. Arguing about the fact that I'm 'Double the size you used to be' so yeah, all I did was turn him down on meeting up on him and all of a sudden he's being a prick. Not to mention he's saying stuff about my baby girl that I don't want to mention due to it being quite sickening, why do I attract mad men? Seriously?
Weight is currently an issue for me, not all mums lose it after having a baby and these past few months have been difficult, so why would someone be like that?
Rant over, ive blocked him, he's not worth it, gotta find someone who loves me for who I am, not criticise my body and my child.
For some people, especially the controlling type, they want to lord something over you to make themselves feel better. I recently had to deal with an ex-friend who systematically kept me from any kind of transition from having a guy friend to having a boyfriend. It took me a long time to see the pattern, because the cause and effect chain was seemingly obvious, but only after looking back on the patterns.
Dianae and Pretty Friend(PF) make a male acquaintance/friend(MF) -> Dianae sees "more to an actual friendship" than there "really is"/thinks MF might, possibly, be interested in taking things a step further(dating, etc) and offhandedly mentions such to PF -> PF uses "innocent tomboy accident"/"I think I like him too"/her looks to pull attention onto herself -> Dianae/MF falls for PF's machinations -> Dianae has body issues and other insecurities reaffirmed -> Male friend pulls a ghost and disappears off the face of the earth. -> Lather, Rinse, Repeat.
or
Dianae voices concern over aspect of relationship -> PF defends herself/promises to change -> PF seems/claims to alter disliked behavior -> Dianae relents -> PF returns to normal/hasn't really changed -> LRR
There were other earmarks of her need to control others, to be at the top of an egocentric world spinning around her and only her.
If you do not conform to the place they have you in their own mind, they rip and tear at you until you fit back into the cookie cutter mold like they want. Even if you get away from them, they rip and tear at you in their own mind until they themselves are the victim of your neglect/mind games/etc. Mind you I may be projecting my ex-friend onto your ex, but... It's the only window into that kind of soul I have.